Supporting a friend who is struggling with mental health can feel overwhelming, but your kindness and compassion can make a big difference. Mental health challenges can affect anyone, and having a supportive friend can help someone feel less alone. If you know someone who is struggling, there are ways to offer help while also taking care of yourself.
One of the most important things to do is recognize when a friend may be struggling. They might seem withdrawn, less interested in things they used to enjoy, or more easily upset. Sometimes, the signs are not obvious, and a friend may act like everything is fine even when they are struggling. Changes in sleep patterns, loss of motivation, or avoiding social situations can also be signs that something is wrong. If you notice these changes, it may be time to check in with them.
When reaching out, it’s important to choose the right time and approach. Find a quiet place where you can talk without distractions. Instead of asking direct or overwhelming questions, start with something simple like, “I’ve noticed you’ve been quiet lately. Is everything okay?” Being a good listener is key. Let your friend share their feelings without interrupting or trying to fix everything. Just knowing that someone cares can be a huge source of comfort.
If your friend opens up, try to be supportive without judgment. Avoid saying things like “Just be positive” or “You’ll get over it.” These phrases can make someone feel like their emotions are being dismissed. Instead, you can say things like, “That sounds really hard. I’m here for you.” Encouraging them to talk about their feelings and validating their struggles can help them feel heard and understood.
Sometimes, a friend may need more help than you can provide. Encouraging them to seek professional support can be a great step. If they are hesitant, you can remind them that talking to a counselor is just like seeing a doctor for physical health. You might offer to help them find resources or even go with them if they feel nervous about reaching out. Many people find comfort in knowing they don’t have to go through the process alone.
While supporting a friend, it’s also important to take care of yourself. Being there for someone else can be emotionally draining, so setting healthy boundaries is necessary. You are not responsible for solving all their problems, and it’s okay to take a step back when needed. If their struggles start to affect your own mental well-being, you may also need support. Talking to a trusted adult, counselor, or another friend can help you navigate your own emotions.
Supporting a friend struggling with mental health is about being present, listening, and encouraging them to get the help they need. You don’t have to have all the answers, but being a caring and understanding friend can mean a lot. If you or someone you know needs further guidance, Lutz Counseling Services is available to provide professional support. We offer in-person counseling as well as telehealth/online virtual services throughout Florida to make help accessible to those who need it.